The magic of embodiment & 5 questions to get you started

I’ve found hints of magic lately.

They’ve been whispers in my ear, hearing the leaves in the trees, seeing the sunrise from the window.

I’ve broken down and cried (twice yesterday in fact). I’ve cried for what is happening in the world, I’ve cried because I don’t know what to do or how. And you know what? That’s okay.

These magic whispers have been my blessings. They have encouraged me and let me continue on with courage. They’ve got me out of bed in the morning and me space. They’ve allowed me to view myself differently.

The whispers are the magic of embodying who I am and want to be.

This wasn’t something I discovered overnight. In fact, I feel like this has taken years of inner work to realise the importance of being who I am without apology. I know that when I was younger I was difficult, rude, not compassionate, bossy and at times, entitled. As I have grown as a person and have trialled and tested various ways of being I have slowly settled in to me.

Firstly, what is embodiment?

Embodiment in the oxford dictionary means ‘a tangible or visible form of an idea, quality or feeling’ OR ‘the representation or expression of something in a tangible or visible form

So, lets bring that back to us or more importantly- you.

This is you embodying who you want to be. Its you not making the excuses for not showing up instead showing up even when its hard to do.

How do you get to that spot though? The one where you feel you’re embodying who you want to be?

Let’s work with 5 questions to keep it simple:

  1. Who do you want to be? Loaded question I know! Start with removing the labels-parent, partner, your profession- who do you want to be with all those things removed?
  2. What are the obstacles you can see as to why you’re not being that person now? Make sure to write down why they are obstacles.
  3. Imagine you have a magic wand and it has wiped away all those obstacles. When you then think of being the person you want to be how does it feel? (it’s okay if it feels scary)
  4. Why would embodying the person you want to be support you and allow you to improve your current life?
  5. What actions could you take to start moving towards being the person you want to be?

Give yourself time to journal these questions out and be absolutely okay with being in the space of ‘I don’t know’. Too often we read that we have to know who we want to be and how we’re going to be that person, but you know what? In my experience hovering in the void of not knowing actually gives you an opportunity for spaciousness and creativeness.

This is where you start to create the magic.

If you aren’t sure, some examples of embodiment practices- things that help you to embody the person you want to be- are:

  • Meditation
  • Journaling
  • Shaking
  • Tea ceremonies
  • Exercise
  • Sea swim
  • Getting up earlier
  • Social media detox

Notice how these are all things that you have to do for yourself. They’re not ‘team sports’. That’s because embodying who you want to be is a personal practice, one that evolves over time the same as you do.

Going back to the definition of embodiment, its not just the tangible, physical practices. Its about the feeling you are holding in your field. How do you feel being you?

As you grow in yourself, your confidence grows. The need for external validation decreases. You feel and deep down know you are imperfectly perfect as you are. You accept who are you because you know the work you’ve had to do to become this person, the one looking back at you in the mirror.

Embodying who you want to be leads you toward who you can be, which leads you to the person you actually are. Along the way you strip away the layers that you’ve been wrapped in my family, friends, society and your own beliefs so that you get to blossom and walk your own path anchored in the knowing that

You are embodiment in action. You are the magic as you embody yourself.

I’d love to know how you found the questions. Was there one that gave you particular insight? Let me know.



1 thought on “The magic of embodiment & 5 questions to get you started”

  1. Thank you again for sharing your words of wisdom in such a thoughtful way Tanya. Can’t wait to get started on our coaching journey together.

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